It has been a while since I wrote a post on my blog. I still have one post pending that I want to continue and finish, the post about living in Germany. I was waiting for a long time to get my driving license exchanged, so I could finish that post with a success story. Unfortunately, this task is still pending, thanks to German bureaucracy.
12.12 is supposed to be the last “Energy Gate” day of 2025. True or not, I decided this is the best possible day to reflect on this year and collect the lessons 2025 taught me. If you experienced this year as chaotic, if you had to let go of people, work, or belongings, then this post is especially for you. You may relate to several of these lessons.
Spiritual leaders suggest that the time has come when everything gets synchronised together, right before 2026. Certain “things” must first fall apart before everything can fall into the right order. I am now collecting those events and lessons that helped me learn more about myself, about my environment, and about what Life may have wanted to teach me. I wanted to write these lessons down anyway, but instead of keeping them only in my personal notebook, I decided to share them here so you may benefit from them too.
I strongly recommend using the quiet period of the festive season to journal about the lessons you learned in 2025. Writing them down reinforces these insights and increases the chance that you will not repeat the same mistakes again in the New Year.
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Allow the Universe / God to bring you something better than what you can imagine.
In the last four years, I have literally re-created the same episodes from my life. For two years, I lived the UK chapter again, even though not long before that we had already decided it was time to move on. It felt safe and comforting to go back again, like coming home. I even managed to work again at the same company I used to work for.
When this bypass ended, my limited imagination started daydreaming about another familiar chapter from my life: the time when I worked in Germany. And here I am now, living in Germany and working for the same company again, but this time with worse conditions. This experience proved to me that we really can create (manifest) with our minds and thoughts. If I want to end this loop and experience a new and better way of living, I must stop reminiscing about past chapters of my life and wishing to live them again. - Accept that sometimes you must let go of “old” friendships too. I lost more friends again this year because I finally had enough of trying to show them an image of myself that I am no longer. I got tired of pretending to be the “old me” just to keep friendships alive and always being the one who initiates conversations. They know the 10-, 20-, or even 30-years-younger version of me, and it seems they do not want to see who I have become. Some of them are also not accepting that I have chosen a different path in life than they have. With a few of them, I simply outgrew the relationship, and we no longer find common topics to talk about. Acceptance is the best thing you can do when letting go of a friendship, while staying open to new connections.
A few new friends also came into my life, but shortly after, they were gone again. When you have limited social contact, you may tend to choose a friend from the circle that is available and unconsciously create a false mental picture of who that person is, so they can fit into the “new best friend” role. I noticed that certain values my new friend held were bothering me a lot. I justified this for a while, telling myself it was okay. In fact, it wasn’t. I need to choose friends who I vibe with and grow together. These friendships ended bitterly because I eventually questioned those habits and the other person got hurt. The lesson came back again very clearly: if something feels “off” about a person, I should not force a friendship. -
Being present.
This lesson keeps returning in my life, and I always have to pay the price until I truly learn it. Recently, I had a small car accident. Part of it was caused by road conditions and driving a new car with a different brake system, but mostly it happened because my mind was not present.
When my thoughts get stuck in past events, in what is not going right in my life, or in worries about the future, they interrupt the flow of life and increase the likelihood of accidents. When the accident happened, I was not fully focused on the road. My mind was busy questioning why certain things no longer work in my life the way they used to. These reminders are costly, frustrating, and completely preventable by being present. - Accept situations you have no control over. I spent countless hours this year feeling frustrated, worrying about bureaucracy, and asking myself why things do not go smoothly. Questions like “What am I doing here?!” – are created by a victim mindset, not us helping to push through challanges! In the end, most of these difficulties eventually got resolved anyway, leaving behind nothing but wasted hours of stress that affected my health, my lifespan, and the mood of people around me.
- Moving on after an argument. Eckhart Tolle (my latest Mentor I am following) mentioned in one of his books, The New Earth, that in the animal world, when animals fight, they move on within minutes without holding negative feelings. Swans fight, then shake their wings, and shortly after they continue their lives normally. Humans, on the other hand, argue with their partner and continue the argument in their heads for hours.
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Consciousness about my thoughts.
Every thought, whether negative or positive, has creative and manifesting power. Holding a negative thought for too long can eventually manifest in real life. My recent car accident is a perfect example. I was already afraid of driving to that town because of a past experience. I even chose a different route to avoid an accident.
I kept driving with the thought, “Please, I do not want to have an accident.” Twenty minutes later, the accident happened. Instead, I should have focused on positive thoughts such as: “I will meet nice drivers on the road. I will have a smooth drive. Everything will be fine, as it usually is.” The Universe/God does not understand the word “NOT”. I keep forgetting this, and I must consciously shift my thinking toward positivity if I want anxiety, fear, and recurring problems to stop. - “This will pass too.” This simple sentence helped me many times during difficult periods. The weeks or months when you do not know how you will survive eventually become part of the past. Even the darkest times pass, and the sun will shine again. Remember this when facing challenges.
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The importance of positive self-talk.
I tend to hurt myself with harsh words whenever something does not go the way I imagined. Yet when I do things right, nothing happens; those moments pass without acknowledgment I did a good job. I must say fewer hurtful words to myself and more compliments.
Cleaned the bathroom? “Well done, Zoli.” Executed maintenance work successfully? “Well done, Zoli.” Managed to overcome fear or anxiety? “Well done, Zoli.” The inner child in me has already been hurt enough and deserves compassion. - Being aware of who I AM. I AM not what my unconscious mind tells me so often. My ego loves negativity, drama, and feeling low, patterns rooted in childhood programming. The real me loves adventure, excitement, growth, and leveling up. I am now committed to becoming more self-aware because I can no longer tolerate the constant drama my mind creates.
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The importance of being mentored.
As a child, my aunt supported and motivated me to enroll in grammar school while others believed that a quiet child equals a dumb child. In adulthood, my wife supported and mentored me throughout my career, especially during times of uncertainty.
In 2015, a freelancer colleague named David mentored me during coffee breaks while I struggled in a permanent job. He guided me toward contracting, and in 2016 I quit my job and started my first freelancing assignment. In 2018, I learned from coaches like Tony Robbins, Robin Sharma, and Dr. Joe Dispenza. Later that year, I met an entrepreneur named Ivo, who helped me secure my first freelancing project in Germany, where I earned four times more net income than in my last permanent role. Since the end of 2024, Eckhart Tolle’s teachings are I resonate the best with. Learning from him how to reach AWARENESS.
In recent years, my self-confidence declined, and ten months of unemployment deeply affected my self-image. At the end of 2025 (now), I decided to stay open to new mentors, remain active in online communities, and fully commit to getting back on track. I am ready to become the best version of myself in 2026!
My biggest realisation in 2025 is that I have a dysfunctional relationship with Life and with the present moment. I must say YES to now, and NO to past negative events and future stories created by my mind. My life has felt like a constant fight through problems, with only short gaps of rest in between. Earlier this year, this mindset even led to a panic attack. Fortunately, once I started working again and had income, the panic attacks stopped. I am 44 years old, and without more conscious living, life feels like an agony. The importance of awareness alone may be the most important lesson 2025 taught me.
Did you like this post? Please leave a comment — I would love to hear more about my readers. I am planning to come back with Part 2 of this post: Action Steps for 2026. I will read through my previous posts about lessons learned and collect which lessons are still recurring in my life. Based on those, I plan to create a clear set of actions on how I can consciously address and work through each one of them.
